Stand-To! Coaching

Christian recovery coaching for men who are ready to change, for good.

You’re ready to do the work. I’m ready to help.

If this sounds like you, you are in the right place:

  • You are tired of starting over after another relapse.
  • You are ready to change, take responsibility for your own recovery, and follow through.
  • You have been hiding the struggle from people you love, and the weight of that is becoming unbearable.
  • You have prayed for change, but follow-through has been hard to sustain.
  • You want a Christ centered, Biblical path to freedom, and a life of integrity and purpose.

To Stand-To is to be ready when the enemy believes you are vulnerable. This 100% confidential program of Christ-centered recovery is for men who are finally done negotiating with drugs and alcohol. This is your call to Stand-To!

No hype. No cheerleading. No participation trophies. You’ll get the results you work for. We will do this together.

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30+ years of continuous sobriety, helping other men down the path of recovery.

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30+ years sober Long-term recovery since January 1994
Coaching, not therapy Clear boundaries; not medical or mental health treatment
6-week blocks Session, call, weekday SMS window, reflection and action, clear terms
Principle-based Biblically Based principles we put into action that create a foundation for a sobriety that holds.

What you get

Three pillars that keep this practical

Commitment to Action

Weekly session, weekly check-in call, and clear reflection and action between meetings. Every week includes a Sober Decision: a specific action you own and complete.

Biblical clarity

We use the action behind the classic Twelve Steps, as outlined in Scripture. This is not a fellowship meeting and not a substitute for church.

Honesty, Integrity, and Accountability

Inventory, repair, and candor. No image management, no performance, no excuses dressed up as progress.

Structure

How the program works

You bring honesty and willing spirit. I bring structure, direct feedback, and accountability. Together we identify your pattern of relapse, then build habits that support long-term sobriety.

Practice between meetings follows the purposes behind the classic Twelve Steps, written in original, Biblically-centered language. The full Steps with scripture correlations are on a dedicated page. This service is not AA, not endorsed by AA, and does not speak for AA. Many people thrive in AA; this path exists for those who want a coaching format with the same emphasis on truth, repair, and responsibility.

  1. Truth and powerlessness. Identify the truth about your life, as it is now, without polishing it.
  2. Surrender and trust. Move from self-reliance alone to reliance on God in Christian discipleship.
  3. Inventory and amends. Clean house, spiritually and practically.
  4. Prayer, self-reflection, and service. Service to God and others ensures our recovery.

Each phase includes reading, reflection, writing when the step calls for it, and a weekly Sober Decision that you choose. I ask clarifying questions; you take the action.

Your investment

Choose your pathway

Recovery here starts with commitment. The 6-week intensive is the first step and the best route for real change. After you complete the inventory phase, you can continue month to month at a lower rate. A single session is available for clarity, and can be especially useful for family members who need practical next steps. The goal is not coaching forever, the goal is to build durable habits, repair what has been damaged, and get you back in the game.

Required first step

6-week intensive

$1,200 per block

High structure, high honesty, high action. Built for clients ready to stop negotiating.

  • Six weekly 1-hour sessions
  • Six weekly check-in calls (about 15-20 minutes)
  • Weekday SMS (Monday-Friday, 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.)
  • Same accountability and action standards described above

Outcomes this block is built to support

  • Breaking chronic relapse patterns through honest inventory and weekly action
  • Rebuilding trust at home with clear commitments you can keep
  • A biblical recovery plan you practice between meetings, not just talk about
  • Weekly accountability so hiding gets harder and repair gets real

Available after inventory phase

Monthly continuation

$400 per month

Step-down pricing for clients who have already proven commitment and want to keep building.

  • Re-up month to month after the initial intensive
  • Same intensity, accountability, and action requirements
  • Continue only as long as needed to stabilize habits and sustain traction

Outcomes this phase supports

  • Keeping traction after inventory work instead of drifting back to old patterns
  • Steady rhythm of truth-telling, repair, and follow-through with the same standards
  • Step-down cost while you stabilize habits for the long haul

Optional one-time session

Single clarity session

$150 per session

Helpful for immediate direction, but not a substitute for the structured intensive.

  • Useful for someone testing the waters
  • Useful for family members who need clear boundaries and next steps
  • Best for clarity, not deep change by itself

Outcomes this session can support

  • A clear read on your situation and next wise steps
  • Practical boundaries and language for spouses or family who feel stuck
  • Honest guidance on whether the full intensive is the right move

Before any paid work begins, we use a written mutual agreement to lock expectations, schedule, communication rhythm, and accountability standards.

FAQ

Common questions

Is this AA?

No. It is informed by similar spiritual principles, expressed in Christ-centered prompts and practice. It is not an AA meeting, group, or official activity.

Do I have to stop going to church?

No. This coaching is meant to complement a serious spiritual life, not replace your congregation or faith practice.

Is this therapy?

No. It is structured coaching with clear boundaries, not clinical care. If you need licensed treatment or medical detox, those belong with qualified professionals.

Do you offer a short call before I commit?

Yes. After you submit an inquiry, if we are a potential fit, we can hold a confidential 15-minute fit call to align on expectations, boundaries, and next steps. It is not counseling, not medical advice, and not a crisis line.

How is pricing structured?

The program starts with the 6-week intensive ($1,200). After you complete the inventory phase, you can continue with monthly continuation blocks ($400/month). A single clarity session ($150) is also available, but it is not the best route for deep change by itself.

How will we engage?

Work starts with the six-week intensive. It includes a weekly one-hour session, a weekly 15-20 minute phone check-in, weekday SMS between 9 a.m. and 5 p.m. (fees and details are in the Your investment section), plus the reflection and action we agree on between meetings. Coaching is not an “always on” crisis line and not random 24/7 texting outside what we put in writing.

Before we begin, we sign a mutual agreement: what I provide, what you commit to (sessions, reflection and action between meetings, honesty, how you use calls and messages), and how fees and scheduling work. That clarity protects both of us.

Is there an option for family members?

Yes. The single clarity session ($150) can be a good fit for spouses, parents, or other family members who need practical guidance, stronger boundaries, and a next-step plan. It is helpful, but it does not replace the full intensive for someone who needs deep recovery work.

Is the Program Difficult?

The work is not easy. Chipping away at the soul-sickness that lets substance abuse keep a foothold is challenging. It is the kind of challenge that changes a life when you stop negotiating with it.

This is “no frills” coaching: I will not high-five half-measures. If you want real change, we work with candor and respect. If you are unwilling to be honest, to follow through on what you agreed to, or to keep your commitments, I will pause or end the coaching relationship. I work with a limited number of clients who are all-in.

Next step

Request a confidential conversation

If you are ready for a six-week coaching block built on biblical principles, honest accountability, and clear action, start the inquiry. We will determine fit, expectations, and next steps, including a 15-minute fit call when appropriate.

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